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Warming our house!

We finally warmed our house with friends and family.

When I woke up Saturday morning, and looked out my bedroom window, my heart sank. Mother nature was being cruel and snowed all over us over night. I got my first cancellation phone call at 10am.

My history of parties is not a good one. Most of the time something happens and most people, one time no one, shows up. When I received my second cancellation phone call I felt like our night was doomed.

As the day went on, the sky cleared up and the snow began to melt. I wasn’t feeling any better about the possible turnout until I received A couple messages saying that they were for sure coming and the two that canceled were coming to!

By around 5pm our house was packed and by 730, everyone who said they would be there was there. Our small home was filled with all the important people in our lives. I couldn’t have asked for a better turn out or a better group of people to share our home with.

The best part of Saturday night was all the left over food! We haven’t had to go grocery shopping yet!

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Catch Up

So much has happened, where do I begin?!?!

Since I’ve started my new job I swear I haven’t stopped. The week flies by so quickly and the weekends are jammed pack with stuff I missed doing during the week. Every week night is spent looking for a house, yes that’s right, the boyfriend and I are looking for a house! How exciting!!

We’ve actually been looking since February, but it’s been serious the last couple of weeks. So serious we put an offer on a house already. We didn’t get it, but I truly believe that we didn’t get it for a reason and that there is a better house out there for us. It’s also a hot market right now, so we are bidding against people who probably have a little more wiggle room.

We are taking this weekend off from house shopping. It’s the Canadian Thanksgiving this weekend so we are dedicated to family gatherings every day. Except tonight. Tonight I am going with work to a football game. I’m pretty excited since we are in the end zone and have unlimited amounts of beer and junk food.

Oh! Speaking of junk food, I’m doing this “cleanse” type diet. It’s actually a powder that you mix with water and drink it before two meals. This product was originally made for people with diabetes. It regulates how fast your body breaks down the food and prevents an insulin spike. Since insulin turns into fat they noticed that people were losing weight on it and decided to turn it into a weight loss product. I’m still doing the traditional stuff, exercise and proper eating, but I thought I could use a little help since we are getting into the “fat” season. I always gain weight between Thanksgiving and Christmas and I would really like to avoid it this year since I had to work so hard to lose weight this year.

Speaking of losing weight, I put on my leather jacket that the boyfriend bought for me last season and it’s too big 😦 I never took that into consideration that any clothes I bought during my little weight slip wouldn’t really fit me now. Oh well, it doesn’t look terrible. I wasn’t THAT much bigger a year ago.

I’ve been a little stressed out about my friendships lately. I have this friend who has been dating the boyfriends friend, which I was all excited for at first. But when she started dating him I had a conversation with her about how I was going to feel when she starts becoming friends with all the other girlfriends and that I didn’t want to ever feel left out. I’m super sensitive to this friend stuff and I’ve lost so many friends I thought were true friends but turned out to not be, so I will do everything I can to avoid that. I told her that I want to be included in everything and that I was afraid that she was going to become better friends with the other girls. Did I mention this friend is my best friend? Well, since she started dating the boyfriends friend, it’s been happening, slowly, exactly what I told her I didn’t want to happen. I haven’t been excluded yet, but I’ve been getting the impression that I’m invited ONLY because I told her I didn’t want to be excluded. I get the feeling I’m not welcome and they would much rather be hanging out without me.

The boyfriend doesn’t understand. Boys are different. They don’t see things the way we do. He doesn’t understand that when we are invited to do something last-minute and our plans are not taken into consideration, they probably thought about us after the fact.

Anyway, I’m complaining. So enough of that!

It’s Friday and a long weekend! I hope you all have a fantastic weekend, and to my Canadians, I happy Thanksgiving.

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Never Foget Your Cell Phone!

I forgot my cell phone at home yesterday. Who knew how much I could miss in only a couple of hours? I’m addicted to my phone, it’s pretty much attached to my hand. I’m not necessarily texting all the time, but rather reading tweets, checking out what’s new on facebook, and reading bbm status updates as they come.

I got home yesterday after what felt like the longest day of my life! But that’s a whole other story. It was around 8pm while doing the dishes when I realized I still had not checked my phone. So I run upstairs with the dishtowel in my hand and grab my phone. 3 bbm messages, 26 emails and 11 facebook messages later I finally felt caught up. Well, that was until I got around to catching up on the million bbm updates and actually looking at the what’s new wall on facebook when I saw it, one of my high school friends got engaged yesterday.

It’s not like she is the first person from my high school to get engaged, or married or has kids, but she is the first one of my actual friends to get engaged. My roommate from university got engaged, but we stopped talking a few years ago. So this friend is the very first friend, who I still talk to, that is engaged. I’m not saying this means anything, or that I’m even invited (we’ll have to wait and see) but it’s given me this feeling all day that I can’t explain.

Part of this feeling is realizing that I’ve kind of grown up; we’ve kind of grown up. I mean, I’ve always known I’ve “grown up”. I have a grown up job, I’ve moved out of my parents (but kind of moved back), I’ve bought a car (but sold it), I’ve been saving to buy a house etc… but having one of my close friends from high school get engaged is completely different. That’s like REAL LIFE! Marriage is real, more real than living on my own or buying my own car or having a real job. It’s combining two lives into one, for life (at least that’s what we hope for when we make those promises at the altar). And generally kids come after marriage, and if that isn’t real then I don’t know what is.

The other part of this feeling is a bit of sadness.

I’ve always wondered what it would be like when my friends started getting married. I always questioned who would be first.

I have a small group of friends from high school that I still talk with, and an even smaller group from elementary school. I even remember having the “who do you think will get married first” conversation with these friends. We all guessed I would be last, which I still think is most likely the case. But we could never decide on who we thought would take the plunge first.

Over the years our group of friends has changed, people have grown apart and some have moved on. But I’ve always tried to keep in contact with everyone and stay in the middle (or out of the middle in some instances). There was a time when this friend (who just got engaged) and I were best friends; well there were actually three of us. We did everything together! But I was always the one who lived further away and it was harder for me to be around all the time, so naturally the other two were much closer. As we got older we changed (as anyone would) and we started to grow apart. And even though our friendships have changed and are not what they used to be, I’ve still thought about who would be the first to get engaged/married.

When it happened, it made me a little sad. I thought about all the things the three of us talked about, how we would all be in each other’s weddings, and who would be the maid of honour, and how we would decide that when the time came. Maybe those dreams about our perfect weddings with our best friends were silly, but they are the memories that bring a smile to your face when you think back on them.

I’m so happy for my friend and I only wish her and her husband-to-be a life time of happiness and love.

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Day One of Three

Since I said I would write about the time I spent away from the boyfriend, today is day one of three in a row without the Boyfriend, perfect timing! And my plans for today are oh so exciting:

8:30-4:30pm: Work
4:30-5pm:Subway to mall
5pm-8pm: Dinner with two very lovely ladies
8pm-11pm: Clean, read and sleep.

Looks like it’s going to be a good day!

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Quantity vs. Quality

I think my problem is my constant need for quantity over quality, especially when it comes to friendships.

It’s been the last few months where I’ve started to realize the importance of having quality friends over quantity. I have a few very dear friends that I try to spend time with whenever I have a chance. And I have a handful of friends that I don’t have to see all the time, but when we do hang out it’s like nothing has changed. And then I have “friends” who I have thought were my friends, but over time have proved me wrong. I’ve given these friends multiple chances, but no matter what I do, no matter how hard I try, we will never be friends. And then I have my work friends who I eat lunch with and maybe every couple months we go out for a drink.

The hardest part is letting go of the ones that just don’t care. You have memories with them that only bring back smiles, but sometimes those memories are meant to be just memories and nothing more. It’s like a break up. You have to move on, otherwise those feelings will never go away. Do you delete these friends from facebook, like you would an ex? Because it hurts just as much to see pictures of them together when you are no longer invovled. Do you remove them from your phone? Because it’s not like you ever talk to them anymore. Do you block them from BBM? Because their statues remind you that you are no longer part of that group. Or do you suck it up and ignore it?

I love the close friends I have, and I’ve come to realize that it’s those friendships that really matter.

It’s strange, but finding good friends is like finding the right guy. You go through some bad ones to find the good ones and sometimes you end up with the friends that were there from the beginning.

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Just Friends

Photo courtesy of Celebritypuke.com

Today I wrote a guest post on my blogger friends’ site SimplySolo. Catherine is an inspiration to a lot of women who have been through failed relationships. If you have a chance, you should definitely take a look at her blog.

My post touches on whether having initial feelings for someone right away should be the deciding factor on going forward with a relationship.

I won’t rewrite the post, you can read it on SimplySolo by clicking here.

But, the post does remind me of the movie Just Friends. I just can’t remember if they end up together in the end…

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Post Birthday

Well it turned out to be the best birthday I’ve ever had!! I’m not sure if it is because of the changes I’ve made in my life the past year, the friendships I’ve patched, or the new relationship I am in, or maybe it was a combination of all the things new and different, but no matter what it is I could not have been more thankful for the love and support on my 25th birthday.

I only have 3 more days until the holidays start and I could not be more excited about what’s lined up. With three Christmases to attend, I jump right into it starting Friday. I am so excited to be spending Christmas with my boyfriend, it will be our first Christmas together and I could not be happier spending it with anyone else. I just hope I have some time to sit back and relax.

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